By Valerie Maloney
I don’t know about you, but I know I have never wished that every part of my life would co-exist in the same place at the same time. And yet, right now, as I am writing this everyone I have ever known since birth has the ability to not only communicate but know almost anything and everything they want to about me.
The arena for this social chaos? Facebook. And I am certain it is going to ruin my life.
I know I am not the only person who feels this way about Facebook, I have friends who have an endless amount of worries about who is going to see what about them. One of my friends recently had a lengthy conversation with me about whether or not she should “tag” a photo of her and a guy she recently met, because her ex-boyfriend might see it. Nay, WILL see it. And you know that will lead to an awkward MSN conversation in your near future, when without Facebook he would never have known.
When I mentioned that I am writing about the perils of Facebook to my brother at lunch today, he sighed with displeasure. “I hate Facebook,” he said. When I queried the reason for his reaction he explained to me how the site is supposed to be bringing everyone so much closer together, but really it is just providing yet another way for people to communicate impersonally.
I couldn’t agree more with his point of view on this. Sure, you can say that without Facebook you would never have found out that Sally you went to pre-school with is married with two kids and a dog and that her favorite TV show is Friends. But are you actually “reconnecting” with these people? Or is it just providing a place where people can voyeuristically peer into others lives?
And you do not know who is peering back into yours. Some employers have now taken to looking up applicants’ profiles as part of the application process. I guess in this day and age the best way to find out if someone is right for the job is to read a three line blurb of the story of their life that the person wittily dreamed up in two minutes when making their profile.
I’m not saying that people should stop using Facebook all together, or that it is an end to society as we know it. I just think you should take it with the proverbial grain of salt, and to not make it your main means of communication.
Or maybe I am wrong and Facebook is the way of the future, people won’t need to talk anymore unless it is at a meeting they have planned by days of writing on each others walls to organize something that a two-minute conversation could have done. I don’t know, all I do know is that I am bitter because nobody has written on my wall today.